Many people with kids end up divorcing their spouses. Parents can work out issues, such as child custody through divorce mediation. But, for children, divorce mediation is a life-changing event.
Parents who want to help their children process the changes that may come after divorce mediation may need to consider the following:
1. Talk about the divorce and what changes to expect
Many parents can’t hide from their children the fact that they’re getting a divorce. In order to be ready for the future, parents may wish to have early conversations regarding the divorce. Parents may want to talk about what’s been agreed to in divorce mediation, such as if their children will need to change schools.
2. Stay neutral with your soon-to-be ex.
What’s said inside and outside divorce mediation can affect how the divorce ends and the prolonged relationship parents may need to keep. Parents should avoid saying anything offensive or overtly negative about their children’s other parents, especially to their children. After divorce mediation, parents who have a neutral relationship may continue to make decisions together without leading to conflict.
3. Invest in one-on-one time
Prior to and following the divorce mediation’s finalization, parents might want to think about spending some one-on-one time with their kids. This private time can show children that their parents are still there for them even if their parents aren’t together anymore.
During this time, parents may want to ask their children how they’re handling the divorce. How children respond to this question may indicate how they’re adjusting to changes. If a child, for example, is struggling to make friends in a new school, then a parent may need to take action to help them.
Parents who reach out for legal help during divorce mediation may have a stronger understanding of their rights.