Why Mediation Makes Good Sense
More than 95% of divorces do not end up in litigation, they are settled, but usually not until many months after they are filed. Michigan circuit court judges who preside over divorces will order the parties to mediation if they cannot reach agreement on custody, support and other issues with help solely from their attorneys.
By then, however, many divorcing couples have spent thousands of dollars on separate divorce lawyers and battled for months. A more sensible approach is to start with settlement negotiations. When divorcing parties reach agreements without litigating, they retain more control over the look and feel of their post-divorce lives.
By hiring Taylor-Made Solutions, PLLC, instead of hiring lawyers for litigation:
- You protect your children from the turmoil and divisiveness of a court battle between their parents.
- You avoid the public disclosure of your personal conflict because divorce mediation is confidential, unlike divorce court proceedings.
- You resolve all issues – child custody, child support, parenting time, property division and spousal support (alimony) – without going to war with your spouse.
- You make the decisions for yourself about your children and your property, instead of having them pushed on you by attorneys or forced on you by a judge.
Abraham Lincoln believed that attorneys should serve as peacemakers. In his notes for a law lecture, he wrote: “Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how the nominal winner is often a real loser – in fees, expenses, and a waste of time. As a peacemaker, the lawyer has a superior opportunity of being a good person*.”
An experienced divorce mediator can help both of you reduce the long-lasting pain, grief and bitterness that so frequently is promoted in the typical adversarial divorce scenario.
*The actual quote is “…being a good man.”