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Mediation Puts The Power In Your Hands

Tara Meyer-Robson, an author and speaker on self-esteem and meditation, says, “When awareness is brought to an emotion, power is brought to your life.” When you understand the interests underlying your emotions, you can find ways to satisfy those interests and move forward with confidence rather than letting the emotions control you. That is an excellent explanation of why mediation makes sense in divorce.

Mediation provides divorcing couples the awareness to understand and positively channel emotions – emotions that otherwise might betray their best interests. There is no getting around the fact that divorce is an emotional endeavor. The cavalcade of feelings that one experiences when a marriage ends may include anger and frustration, as well as sorrow and despair. It can be a difficult mindset in which to make sound decisions.

When you start your divorce with an experienced mediator, with the intention to reach the best solutions for all involved, it is possible to override the negative emotions that frequently produce only more anger and bitterness, and often result in hefty legal bills, and instead to find solutions that work for your reconfigured family. A sensible approach to divorce that helps families is the overriding goal at Taylor-Made Solutions, PLLC.

The Benefits Of Mediation

There are numerous reasons why mediation is the best option for resolving most disputes in divorce. Meyer-Robson identifies one of the most important – power.

Mediation gives both parties involved the power to control the outcome of decisions regarding child custody, support, the division of marital property and other critical aspects that will shape your post-divorce life. Why would anyone place these important issues in the hands of a circuit court judge who knows little about you and your family?

Research shows that couples who agree to terms of their divorce without litigating are more cooperative in post-divorce life. They avoid having their children see them fight not only in court but also continuously in the months and years following the divorce.

Mediation also:

  • Helps avoid the delays and excessive legal bills that result from an adversarial court process
  • Produces binding agreements that merely need to be approved by the court
  • Keeps the details of your divorce confidential, since there is no public record of the discussions regarding your agreements.
  • Allows both parties to enlist the services of their own lawyer to ensure their rights are protected and the agreements are fair

Take The First Step To A More Sensible Divorce

There is another quote, this one from the author William O’Rourke, that reinforces the value of mediation over litigation. O’Rourke says, “Regret is an odd emotion because it comes only upon reflection. Regret lacks immediacy, and so its power seldom influences events when it could do some good.”

Don’t regret the decisions that you make in the heat of an emotional divorce. I welcome the opportunity to explain more about how mediation works and why it makes good sense during a phone consultation. Call 248-579-9766 or use my online contact form to schedule a meeting.