Divorce is never easy. Things become especially difficult when children are involved and you cannot seem to agree on the subject.
One of the approaches you can take to resolve your child custody matter is mediation. Basically, this is the process of resolving your child’s post-divorce living arrangements out of court. Done right, mediation can help you reach a custody settlement that works for everyone. But custody mediation requires effort and compromise from both parents.
Here are three tips that can help you mediate your child’s custody.
Keep your emotions under control
Most people do not enjoy tense conversations. There is no doubt that your spouse may no longer be your favorite human being. For custody mediation to work, however, you need to keep things civil.
Make every effort to remain calm and focused on the bigger picture – the best interests of the child. Remember, the calmer and more focused you are, the more likely you mediate a settlement that works for everyone.
Listen to your child
A child’s opinion may not be the primary basis upon which custody is reached. However, it still helps to listen to them. While you may be tempted to push your interests through, you need to consider what is in their best interests.
Again, your child is bound to benefit from close contact with both parents. Therefore, make an effort to minimize conflicts, especially in the presence of your children.
Keep marital problems out of it
Besides child custody, there are several other issues you will need to address during the divorce. Do not muddy the water by bringing up other issues like property division or spousal support during the custody mediation process.
A lot is on the line during the child custody mediation process. Just as you would prepare for a life-defining test, so should you prepare for your custody mediation exercise.