Children need to have consistent routines so they can thrive. The stability that the consistency provides is a central part of a child’s life, but it’s one that can be disrupted when their parents divorce. It’s even more critical for the children to have consistency during this time so they can begin to adjust to living between two homes.
A consistent routine has to be tailored to the child’s age. Younger children may need consistent bedtimes and meal patterns between both homes. Older children may need consistent study or homework requirements. Children who don’t have consistency may struggle with behavior problems or anxiety. This is where having guidelines in the parenting plan can help.
Why is the parenting plan important?
Mediation is one option that parents have when they’re divorcing. This gives you and your ex a chance to come together to set standards for raising your children. The terms that you agree upon will be listed in the parenting plan.
During mediation, you and your ex can work through scheduling details to determine how to support daily needs. This process can include addressing practical concerns, such as school pickups and extracurricular activities. Having comprehensive information in the parenting plan can help to make parenting time much easier.
What’s included in the parenting plan is mostly a personal decision. There are some basics, such as parenting time schedules and communication requirements, that must be included. Other points, such as screen time limits or the age at which children can have their own cellphones, may also be included.
While it’s understandable that there will be some differences between homes, having major items consistent can benefit your children. Working with someone who’s familiar with these matters may help to ensure that the plan is tailored to your child’s needs.