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Tips for telling your children you’re divorcing

On Behalf of | Sep 6, 2022 | Divorce |

If you decide to end your marriage, one of the more difficult things that you’ll need to do is to tell your children about the divorce. This is going to be a challenging situation for them, so you must plan carefully.

Ideally, you and your ex should tell the children together. If you can work as a parenting team, the children will likely feel a bit more stable. This can help them to adjust to the situation a bit easier. It also reduces the risk of the children trying to play one parent against the other because they know the lines of communication are open.

Outline the plan

Talking to the children about what’s going to happen because of the divorce. Be honest with them about what life between the two homes will be. Make sure that you don’t set unrealistic expectations for them. 

Anticipate their questions

Your children will likely have questions about what’s going to happen. Try to anticipate those so you can prepare the answer. Discussing possible questions with your ex may help you to determine the response. This can also set a positive precedent for a healthy co-parenting relationship.

Plan the timing of the discussion

The children should learn about divorce when they don’t have anything major going on. Talking to them right before a major test or a similar event could have a negative consequence. Instead, make the time to talk to them when things are calm and quiet.

One of the most important things you can do during this period is to work out the details of the parenting plan as a team. Being able to refer to it enables you to help the children have the stability they need. It can also help you and your ex to maintain a positive atmosphere for the kids.