Parents who split up have to take the needs of their children into account as they go through the process. This is often one of the biggest life changes that the children have ever had to go through, partly because the security of having both parents around them consistently is ending.
One challenge that comes with their parents splitting up is having to learn to live between two homes. It’s up to both parents to determine how they can move forward with their split while still helping the children to make the adjustments they’re having to make.
Provide the children with accurate information
Many children fare better when they know what to expect, so it’s typically best for parents to let the children know what’s going to happen. For example, letting the children know the schedule they will use to switch homes and what rules will be followed may be beneficial for them.
Give the children their own space
Children likely have their own space in the home they already live in, but they will also need space in the other home. This might be an entire room, but it can also be a dedicated area in a shared space. If possible, consider allowing them to decorate the space or to have a say in how it’s decorated.
Parents who are ending a relationship with each other still need to ensure they focus on what’s best for their children. Setting the parenting plan as early as possible after the split may help to provide the consistency the children need. Because coming up with the terms of the parenting plan can be challenging, it may be beneficial to work with someone who is familiar with these matters so they can help to determine what terms are ideal for the children.