There are two general ways for parents to address a divorce. The first is a contested divorce, in which the court has to make decision because the couple can’t reach agreements. The second is an uncontested divorce, where parents go through mediation to make decisions and come to agreements on their own. These agreements may address how to share custody of their children, how to divide marital assets and other key issues.
There are many benefits to divorce mediation, including the fact that it can be less stressful and easier for children. It can also be a faster process, so couples often save money because they don’t have to go through a lengthy court battle. To achieve these benefits, you’ll have to be prepared to compromise.
Why compromise is necessary
If you approach divorce with the mindset of wanting to get your way on every single detail, it’s inevitable that you’ll run into conflicts with your soon-to-be ex. This is why some couples feel they have no choice but to go to court.
However, litigation doesn’t guarantee that you’ll get your way. It just means that a judge will make the decisions instead of you. The judge may still rule in a way that you don’t agree with.
Compromise can help you avoid this situation. Try to determine which things are most important to you. Be willing to give your spouse control over some decisions, even if you don’t think they’re optimal, so that they see you’re willing to work with them. If both parents are willing to compromise and focus on the best interests of their children while drafting a child custody arrangement, for instance, it helps the process go much more smoothly.
Mediation with the right mindset can lead to a peaceful divorce. Be sure you know what legal steps to take.