Mediating a parenting time schedule can be a constructive way for parents to develop a workable plan that prioritizes the well-being of their children. Mediation allows parents to discuss their needs and concerns in a controlled, supportive environment, fostering cooperation and minimizing the risk of conflict.
Yet, successful mediation doesn’t simply unfold seamlessly, simply because parents hope that things will go well. If you’re getting ready to mediate a parenting time schedule for your child(ren), it’s important to tailor your approach in ways that will help to better ensure the ultimate success of your efforts. Consider the following tips as you get started.
Prepare thoroughly
Before entering mediation, it’s important to be well-prepared. Gather all relevant information, including your work schedule, your child’s school and extracurricular activities, and any special needs or considerations. Knowing your availability and constraints will help you propose a realistic schedule and better understand your ex’s position.
Create a detailed and flexible plan
Draft a proposed parenting time schedule that is detailed and specific. Include provisions for holidays, vacations and special occasions. Also build in flexibility to accommodate unforeseen changes and events. A clear, yet adaptable plan can help prevent future conflicts and misunderstandings. Having a proposal ready to go can allow you to start mediation in a well-thought-out and informed frame of mind.
Be open to compromise
Because you need to mediate some differences of opinion, it is unlikely that your mediation process is going to end with you achieving everything you want to. Flexibility and willingness to compromise are key to successful mediation. Understand that you and your ex may both need to make concessions to create a workable schedule. Approach the process with an open mind and be willing to consider various options. Remember that the goal is to find a solution that works for everyone, especially your child.
Mediating a parenting time schedule is not always an easy process. But, if you’re prepared for what’s ahead, you’ll place yourself in the strongest position to advocate successfully for your child’s best interests.