Divorce can be a very stressful time. That can take a considerable toll on your wider life and relationships, and leave you so drained that you do not have the energy needed to make good decisions about the divorce itself
Understanding a few ways to reduce the emotional impact of divorce can leave you in a better position to go forward. Here are some things to consider:
Accept when the marriage is over
If your spouse is set on a divorce then you need to accept that rather than trying to make them change their mind. Instead, focus on the most pressing issue – how to move on from here.
Gather others who can help you through it
You probably have people you can ask for help. Some may not think to offer help but will happily give it if you ask. One example could be your boss or colleagues at work. If you let them know you are going through a difficult time they could do things such as reduce your workload, cover for you in a meeting you do not have the mental capacity for right now, or allow you to slip out early when you have a divorce-related meeting to attend.
Family and friends can provide emotional support, such as meeting for a coffee, or more practical support such as walking the dog when you are too busy or offering you a place to stay for a few nights when you need to get out of the house you share with your soon to be ex-spouse.
Use a less stressful form of divorce
Litigating your divorce can increase the mental strain of it all. Mediating or using collaborative law to resolve things can make for a less stressful process. It can also speed things up, helping you put this chapter of life behind you and move on sooner.