Divorce mediation is much different than litigation. Instead of going to court, you and your spouse get to work together. You may have a legal team as well as a mediator, but you’re not in court. No one makes a ruling. The judge doesn’t make a decision about what you have to do with your time or your assets. You both get to make the decisions about your family’s future.
Naturally, this can be very difficult for some couples who are not necessarily on good terms as their marriage ends. One thing that can make it easier is to remember what your goals really are.
Focusing on the children
For instance, perhaps the most common goal that most couples have is to focus on the best interests of their children. They want to make sure that the divorce goes well for the kids and that they have a happy, stable life after the divorce concludes. That is their goal and that is the thing they want more than any specific asset or other legal outcome.
When you think this way, it makes it easier for you to work with your spouse, even if the two of you don’t see eye-to-eye. You’re more willing to compromise, because you understand that you may have to give up something that you want to give the kids the life that you desire for them. That desire becomes bigger than your own, and it allows the two of you to cooperate.
Considering your options
When you both have this mindset, your divorce can be peaceful, and you can find excellent solutions. Make sure that you know exactly what steps to take so that you can achieve this end.